Reputations seem to mean a lot to the people that are ruining theirs, but it never really has to be ruined in the first place - I guess the truth can be too hard to digest and a story needs to be created.
Understandable, for sure - but still, the masking makes the story more dramatic and isn't that what we are usually saying we don't want. No drama. I beg to differ, the actions seem otherwise - drama is what appears to be the "missing" link, the unconscious motivational drive. Drama is creative energy, a surge of emotion, a change of tide, the unexpected, the forbidden, the painful, the surprising, the anticipation. Someone always cries, and the cry that hurts the most is the one from the unassuming victim.
The louder and more complex the reasoning - the less we believe what is being said. The truth is simple. It may be hard to get too but it is there, and the truth can be hard to admit - no one wants to be mean.
Well, the majority of us don't want to be thought of as the mean one, anyway. However, we seem to be okay with: doing what we need to do, to get to where we want to get too, while judging others for taking the same route we are taking.
That is what I don't really understand - the judgement on others for what we are already doing...... oh I see.... we get upset with them as a way to punish the ugly in us. Trippy.
The problem with all of this is, we are not looking to see the shadow in us. We all got one. Peter Pan showed generations of children to accept the shadow, to try to keep it with us and to mourn it's disconnection from us. We need that aspect of ourselves- we need to understand what is holding us back. We need to accept that the shadow may never go away completely, but with the right amount of light we can be bigger than it and we can begin to play with it.
Accept the darkness inside of ourselves and apologize to those we hurt. Don't make ourselves out to be the victim if we are actually the conqueror.. it serves no authentic purpose, other than to satisfy our own idea of who we are and what has happened. We can all see through it, we may just not have the energy to help peel off each layer of the mask.
All in due process, that is in the hands of the beholder.... no one can make us see something we don't want to believe is there. A piece of insight though - your side is one side to many angles and some people will see the dark side of the story far easier due to where they're sitting. Reality is made up the entirety. Be kind, be loving and be willing to listen to the hard stuff.
