Then the view I have becomes the enemy, it becomes the place of not understanding, of not picking the right side, of having to "should" care more about the issue at hand. But to create a conversation around the issues at hand without being emotionally triggered is a difficult task.
I noticed that even among the barrage of comments I feel a need to explain that I am not always love, that I do get angry, that I do have a voice - but because I may not use it like you doesn't mean that it is not coming from the same place: a place of fear, a place of sadness and a place of stalemate.
What do we do, how do you address issues that seem to be so far out of our control?
One step at time. Or as my Dad might say: One breath at a time.
I truly believe that the more we address our own inner shit - the stuff that rolls around the darkness getting all muddy and start to dive down into the depths of entitlement, the better chance we have of making a decision that will positively affect all of us.
I am not a big believer in blame. I know it exists and that we are all capable of it but I don't think it does anything other than walk us around the same circle we are already in, while at the same time carving into the ground a path for more of us to follow.
To combat blame we need to be accountable. Accountable to our mistakes, accountable to others, accountable to our actions, beliefs, words and whatever else we attach too. We all have the right to speak our truth and others have the right to think we are speaking shit - but when it comes down to it we need to respect that all of us have a voice, as different as they may be. This does not mean we are going to like what everyone has to say - but that is the point.
In the chaos of word war and emotional triggers, hopefully, we can develop an ability to communicate with the people around us to get to the core of what we are all saying and see if what we are saying resonates with each other or not: at which point we have a stronger point of reference to act.
To dismiss someones perspective because you may believe that you know what that person is going to say is dangerous. This is assuming that you are already ahead of that persons emotional, intellectual and physical processing and you know what - there may be times you are right, so enjoy it when you are, but sometimes you may be surprised to hear what that person is going to say.
If we talk about the dark vs the light - we need both.... and in between this space of dark and light lives neutrality: the space in which transformation begins - acting as our internal boundary: Respect.
We may not like what everyone has to say, or the vibe they have, or the angle they are coming from but we need to hear them first before we attack.
Ultimately, I see it as a fear of being wrong, we become so caught up in our views that we need them to be right for us to be alright. We are human, we are not perfect. If we are "wrong" we can change our mind, accept the consequences and approach things differently - I guess the issue sits in the space of shame: that painful feeling of humiliation. The more we look the more we can make.
If coming from a love view has taught me anything it is I wont be brought to hating.
